It dawned on me that some of you may be strongly desiring romance or you’ve met someone with whom you have a budding romance. So I wanted to share a few things about how to enjoy the holiday season by being open to love. And romance. And the possibility of a budding relationship.
So here’s how to be open to love this holiday season:
1: Go places where you know you will meet other single people. Now, I’m not telling you to look up every holiday singles mixer in your and sign yourself up to go. But I AM telling you not to avoid these things. In fact, if you get tons of invitations to go to social events where lots of other singles will be, accept those invitations, get snazzy and jazzy dressed up, smile and talk. It sure beats staying home alone. With your dog or cat.
2: Find activities to participate in with your new friend. This one is for you if you’ve met someone and it’s not quite exclusive but it is crystal clear that it could definitely become exclusive. Dating in a way that is enjoyable yet pleasing to God can be tricky – especially when you both like and are attracted to each other. But the holidays are a time of year when there are an abundance and variety of activities that are perfect for “new but not exclusive couples” to attend to get them out of the house and allow them to get to know each other.
3: Stay in the moment. When you are enjoying each other and getting to know each other it can be easy for one or both of you to get ahead of yourselves. Supposing the future too far in advance is damaging because it raises expectations and hopes unnecessarily. Planning the next steps – like “What are we doing this weekend?” or “Let’s meet up Wednesday this coming week for this holiday gathering” is great. It’s how you know that the interest is at least steady. But planning 6 months to a year out takes away from staying in the moment. And if things get serious, you’ll be glad you enjoyed every moment.
4: Make memories. The holidays are a great time to meet a man with whom you might get serious with and later on marry. Because…part of great relationships is creating memories. Because from memories you can establish your own couple’s traditions that have meaning and sentimental value. Some of the most happy and committed couples I know do this. Even if it doesn’t get serious, when you date in a way that pleases God and you don’t go too far too fast memories like these are great to remember.
Be open to love this holiday season…you never know where it will go!
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